Caveat Emptor

Detransitioning discussion

I generally agree with the sentiment that IF you are detransitioning BECAUSE of the current political climate, it's counterproductive to be broadcasting that on the Internet in terms of YOUR personal safety, so I think anyone writing about that is EITHER a total fucking idiot OR it's bullshit propaganda being framed as some "sincere individual blogger' or whatever.

"Look at me! Look at me! I'm successfully HIDING from the current transphobic administration for my safety!!! Here's my photo, the city I live in..."

Suuure.

If they claim to be detransitioning for some other reason, MAYBE it's not doodoo. Because whether it's propaganda or not, I don't recommend you follow the advice of any fool putting personally identifying information on the Internet and labeling it "How to successfully HIDE 101!"

And it's much much harder to be genuinely anonymous and unfindable online than you imagine. I blogged for years as openly homeless and stopped broadcasting the name of the city I was in out of concern for my safety and became extremely uncomfortably aware that anyone actually paying attention could figure out where the hell I was because talking about the recent storm narrowed down my location and shit like that.

I haven't read any detransitioning content. I do think people should be allowed to speak to their experience if they wish.

We don't currently have a really good means to determine who is trans and who should transition. It's all very hand wavy emotional inner identity "I FEEL like a woman" type stuff.

I can imagine a scenario where a homosexual with internalized homophobia might decide transitioning and becoming a woman so they can date men sounds like a plan when it's really just self harm.

So I think it's potentially useful to have people putting out information on their experiences where they decided to detransition but one of the problems is that you can't know if it's authentic and good information, someone really speaking from their heart and blah blah blah and not just some kind of political propaganda. Or some fucking idiot talking out their ass.

I don't expect my work to EVER get traction for that very reason. I'm one individual. I have pathetic credentials. No one knows who I am or has any reason to believe me or trust me or care what I do etc etc etc.

That's a shockingly hard nut to crack if you aren't part of the echo chamber of what's already socially acceptable a la the Overton Window. Or part of "the system" and good luck getting genuinely new and creative ideas out there if you are asking a boss for permission and a committee for funding etc etc. It's the same deal: Overton Window or DIE!

My credentials include:

1. I have an incurable genetic disorder and have managed it with diet and lifestyle for a lot of years. No one believes that and there's no means to prove it. If you don't want to take my word for it -- and no one wants to take my word for it -- I got nothing.

2. I have six years of college, including a spiffy Certificate for my work in the insurance industry where I got training in medical terminology among other things. Nope, not publishing a copy of that on the Internet. See above: Just BELIEVE me!!! You FOOLS!!!!

3. I worked in insurance processing accident claims for five years plus the three months of training. As such, I read medical records all day everyday. No, Aflac is not ever going to vouch for my sorry ass and say "Hey, world! This ranting lunatic with bizarre ideas? Yeah, the shit she is saying about working for us and having a Certificate we paid for IS TRUE! FYI: She got good grades for her Certificate."

4. No, it's not just one data point. My oldest son has the same diagnosis I have and my youngest son is a carrier. And no one ever cares. They consistently tell me it's a single data point -- me -- and "It's anecdotal." 

5. I have no studies I can cite to back up my work and prove what I say. I do at times cite studies for supporting what I think is true. And it's very easy to find a study saying the opposite and to claim my citations are cherry picked.

6. I'm NOT aware of anyone using my information to treat their health successfully and if they exist, they have ZERO reason to come forward and vouch for me and thereby also get dismissed with "You are delusional and not really getting well or not getting well for the reason you claim or outright lying and don't actually have that condition."

I'm NOT promoting this blog. AT ALL.

It's a stupid STOOPID STOOOOPID FUCKING hobby and if I had any god-damned sense whatsoever I would quit this BULLSHIT.

It's a COMPLETELY fucking useless waste of time that will never help anyone else and sure as hell does not a fucking thing FOR ME.

Except I actually do have CF, actually have been managing it successfully for years with diet and lifestyle and no longer have any kind of social life etc etc etc and talking to myself in my corner of the Internet is the least worst means to speak my mind for the sake of my sanity without having to engage directly with utter and complete jackasses in online forums pissing all over me because it's outside the Overton Window AND they just ENJOY being disrespectful turds and can get away with picking on me because I "don't have a leg to stand on" socially.

Maybe you dip shits have heard the expression "Fact is stranger than fiction."?

Maybe not because you're morons who spend all your time looking for excuses to openly be assholes to vulnerable people in a way that's socially acceptable and you are completely invested in finding ways to tear people down, gatekeep them out, silence meaningful discussion of anything in the name of "Trying to have a meaningful discussion in public is DANGEROUS behavior!!!!!!!" Or some bullshit.

Anyway, a word to the wise: You don't fucking know who I am. If you think my blather MAKES SENSE and might not be utter shit, I recommend you be a SKEPTIC -- AKA citizen scientist -- and check it for yourself. 

And remember: it's a fucking BLOG and I am not your physician. I'm NOT a physician at all. I'm a former homemaker who spent years homeless. I take zero fucking responsibility for whatever idiotic bullshit you choose to do because you read something on the Internet.

Because I have no means whatsoever to make sure you understood it, followed directions correctly etc etc etc. There's no prescription being issued, no pharmacy required, blah blah blah. Odds are high you're going to fuck something up.

Some IDIOT once took my advice to give coconut oil to her child with CF. It was a SMALL child, she gave a LARGE dose daily and spent like TWO fucking WEEKS mopping the damn floor multiple times per day because the severe diarrhea could not be contained by a diaper before telling me that was an issue she was having.

I promptly told the MORON as politely as I could "That's waaaay too much. You need to lower the dose."

So I know some people are idiots and I take no responsibility for your idiocy. 

Footnote 

I don't actually like calling anyone stupid. I'm just trying to say "Hey, stupid, don't maim yourself or kill yourself with DIY medical anything off the Internet."

Mmmkay?