Modern Womanhood

Some reddit discussion

I'm guessing they probably started HRT. 

If so, they're getting something they need desperately -- medical treatment for something medically wrong with their body -- and it's typical to feel less desperate for some imagined whole package solution when one starts getting real solutions to the piece that really matters.

So it probably means this person has breathing room to question social garbage that cis women object to and piss and moan about, including ME.

I learned the concept that gender is a social construct long before I heard about trans anything. I learned it as a feminist concept.

As a women's rights concept, it boils down to "Me having girl bits doesn't mean I WANT to be your bitch. Me not liking being defacto chattel property doesn't somehow make me less feminine or something, no."

The practice of women's work originated before money was a big part of society at a time when most people were in subsistence cultures and most people spent most of their time trying to make sure they and their people didn't starve to death, regardless of age or gender.

Typical American school schedules where you have spring break and summer off were NOT historically "vacations." Those were WORK times when spring planting and summer harvesting happened and everyone over age four WORKED to plant and harvest and you got to pursue luxury items like education in the off season after first assuring you would eat all year.

Men and women BOTH WORKED to put food on the table and address other essential survival tasks and money was not involved. Women's work was a set of tasks women could perform while pregnant, breastfeeding and raising children to be contributing members of society in a world where people DIED if they didn't work.

The concept of "idle rich" didn't yet exist. Noble families had large numbers of children in Europe because your sons were officers in the military and could die in battle before the king died and needed a living heir to replace his function. Nobility were not "idle rich" originally.

So women's work wasn't originally intended to make a woman into the personal servant of her husband. Birth control didn't exist and medical care was atrocious and antibiotics didn't exist and cooking and cleaning were critical tasks that took sixty or more hours a week when you had five or more children and no refrigerators, microwaves, fast food drive throughs etc.

As we developed birth control and better medical care and families shrank and things changed, it became less necessary for a woman to completely devote herself to the tasks we think of as women's work and women began going "I want something more in life."

There's a book called More Work for Mother that documents three hundred years of development of household technology and how as MONEY began being consistently available and PAID work became a normal part of life, people invented household technology to shift tasks from the husband to the wife so he could focus on PAID work.

There was no nefarious intent to make the wife his bitch. The GOAL was to raise quality of life for the entire family by having more money.

But the longer this went on, the more society viewed and treated women like chattel property and men began gaining rights and freedoms NO ONE previously had.

Historically, BOTH husband and wife were chained together for survival reasons and if he wanted a divorce, she typically kept the house and kids and got alimony and child support and most men couldn't really afford to keep supporting the wife and kids and leave them to start life over.

Anyway, what work you do or how you dress or how much makeup you wear isn't REALLY essential to "being a woman." And identifying AS a woman to other people isn't REALLY essential to being physically healthy IF being trans is a sex hormone syndrome and the primary thing people need is the HORMONES they aren't producing.

No, this is NOT an argument that trans people should get HRT and continue to identify as their AGAB and stop bothering other people with their social transition or whatever. 

This is just saying "If you get HRT and find yourself suddenly less stressed out about what other people think about your gender identity and suddenly find yourself ambivalent about or disinterested in wrestling with all this social crap: Welcome to modern womanhood."

Because I am so fucking tired of this bullshit my damn self and I'm cis and have spent YEARS researching such questions to try to make my peace with being a girly girl who doesn't want to be anyone's bitch.